Christmas seems to have come very early this year, so I have decided to go one step further and get my New Year's resolution in pre-December too.
For the last couple of years I've written a fairly long list of pledges that have ranged from 'buy a house' and 'write another book' to 'become slamming hotty'.
I don't own a house and my last book was published in 2012. What can I say? At least I achieved the third, yeah?
Every year the list of pledges I don't write down seems to grow. I need to lose weight. Get my hair under control. Become more stylish. Be a better mother. Earn more. Work harder.
The resolutions can also directly contradict one another. Earn more money BUT ALSO learn to appreciate what I have rather than striving for more. Learn to love my body BUT ALSO shape up to the point whereby I could just wander into a Sweaty Betty catalogue. Focus more on my children BUT ALSO get my name out there more and write for the nationals on a more regular basis.
I'm so far past setting myself up to fail it's not even funny. When I think about all the things I have promised myself this year - and every year - I think one glaring theme becomes very clear, and that's that I feel I have to change quite fundamentally.
I've unravelled myself to the point whereby I can clearly see that I am practicing severe self-criticism, masquerading as 'self improvement'.
Every promise, every pledge, starts with the premise that I have to change something about myself for the better.
Every resolution hides a deep dissatisfaction with the state of things, the way things are, the way I am.
This year has been monumentally hard in many ways, for reasons far beyond simply having two very young children. As it draws to a close part of me will be quite happy to see the back of 2014. I will look back at some wonderful times, but some very dark ones too.
And so as I look ahead it suddenly seems very clear to me what my resolution for 2015 must be.
I want to be able to accept what I see in the mirror. Inside and out. I want to accept myself as I am, this moment as it is, my life, as it is.
So I suppose I'm still looking to change, but I think it's a change that is long, long overdue.
